Anneriek's Perspective

You know that fight you had last night? The one about the dishes, or being late, or not listening, or spending too much money? Here's the thing: It wasn't actually about any of those things. That fight—the one you've had seventeen variations of in the past month—is about something deeper. And until you understand what's really happening underneath the surface-level conflict, the pattern will likely continue. The Dance You're Stuck In Every couple has a "dance"—a pattern of in

Over years of practice, I've noticed a natural progression that people move through when they're not just healing from their past, but growing into their future. I've come to think of this as four distinct stages, each building on the last. Let me walk you through what I've observed. Stage 1: AWARENESS - Seeing What's Actually Happening The first stage is deceptively simple: noticing. Recognising your pain, your triggers, and acknowledging past traumas. Not analysing. Not fix