Anneriek Favelle

Every time tension rises with your partner, you face a quiet choice: do I want to be right, or do I want to be connected? Sadly, you can't have both in the same breath. Here are the six strategies we reach for when we're hurt — including the one that hides best, because it wears the face of love.

Most people who haven't done sandtray feel a bit unsure about it. The image in their head is often a sandbox with toys, and the leap from that to "deep therapeutic work" can feel like a stretch. So let me walk you through what's actually happening, and why it works.

When the sex stops, the easy story is "she's menopausal." The harder one — the one couples avoid for years — is that something was already there. Are you ready to have the conversation you should have had twenty years ago?