Anneriek's Perspective

You've had this fight before. Maybe it was about the dishes. Maybe it was about how they spoke to you in front of their parents. Maybe it was about sex, or money, or who forgot to book the thing. The topic changes. But somehow, it always ends up in the same place. You say your thing. They say their thing. You feel that familiar heat rising in your chest. They get that look on their face—the one you know too well. And before you know it, you're both doing the thing  you always

Want to know what the most common issue is in relationships? We react to what we think  our partner is thinking. There two important parts to that; the 'what you think they think' part, and the 'reacting' part. React, Protect, Defend Every relationship is two people navigating their fears and needs together. You've got your stuff, they've got theirs, and somehow you're supposed to make it work. Under the surface our fears show up in weird ways – maybe you're terrified of bei

Most couples walk into a therapist's office when a crisis is at hand... When years of resentment have calcified into contempt. When the thought of one more argument feels unbearable. Or perhaps it's the "last chance" before calling it quits. But... What if we treated our relationships like we treat our cars? You don't wait until your car completely breaks down on the highway before taking it to a mechanic, right? You get regular oil changes, tyre rotations, and tune-ups. You